Sword Fighting with Devin

The learning opportunity

Belonging grows through concrete invitations. Ask how social pressure shapes a decision to include someone and what a welcoming gesture could look like. Use imaginative or fictional examples so learners can explore courage without naming excluded classmates.

Learning goal

Students will explore the tension between fitting in and standing up for others—and the strength it takes to choose kindness.

Competencies: Social Awareness, Self-Awareness, Relationship Skills, Responsible Decision-Making

Scott’s story

When I finished middle school, my family moved from Nebraska to Lubbock, Texas. It was a big shift—bigger city, new climate, and everyone talked differently. My voice didn’t quite match the people around me. I wanted to fit in, so I paid close attention to what seemed "normal" and tried to blend in.

A few weeks into school, I met Mark. He was smart, into science fiction, physics, and philosophy. He was a little nerdy, and I had that side too, though I kept it hidden. Mark made me feel comfortable enough to be myself.

About a month later, another new student arrived. His name was Devin. He was short, had unusually shaped hands, and a high-pitched voice. People quickly labeled him as weird. I didn’t want that label, so I kept my distance.

One day Mark said, “I’m going out back at lunch to hang out with Devin. You should come.”

“Why?” I asked.

Mark replied, “He’s new. I think he needs friends. He told me he likes fantasy stories and sword fighting.”

So I went. We had mock sword battles using cardboard tubes and imagination. And I liked Devin. He was kind, creative, and totally himself.

By choosing kindness over conformity, I found more freedom to be myself too. And that mattered more than fitting in.

Step 2: Lesson Plan – "Choosing Kindness Over Cool"

Objective: Students will explore the tension between fitting in and standing up for others—and the strength it takes to choose kindness.

Part 1: Discussing the Story (10–15 mins)

Why did Scott initially avoid Devin?

What helped change his mind?

How did choosing kindness affect him?

Part 2: Journal and Pair Share (15–20 mins)

Write about a time you avoided someone because of peer pressure—or a time you stood up for someone instead.

Share in pairs.

Part 3: Role-Play Scenarios (15–20 mins)

Practice standing up for someone in hypothetical social situations.

Discuss how it feels to go against the crowd.

Spark, shutdown and reflection

Journal Prompts:

A Spark: When did someone include you when others didn’t?

A Shutdown: When did you stay silent instead of helping someone?

How might you choose kindness next time?

Sharing Options:

“Courage Cards” with anonymous notes of encouragement

Whole group reflection

Ask students: “What might it feel like to include someone today who’s been left out?”